If you and your coparent are in conflict, there’s a high likelihood that exchanges can be tough when you’re both involved. Here are some quick tips to consider weaving into your exchange days:
Have your exchange day(s) + time(s) clearly laid out in your parenting plan
Only have two “exchangers” present at the physical exchange - The pick-up person + the drop off person. All others should not come, stay in cars or stay their distance.
Before you get out of your vehicle, say your goodbyes to your kiddo(s) AND say one thing positive about their spending time with your coparent.
SMILE and say “Hi” to your co-parent when you approach them/they approach you.
This is not about you. It’s about your kiddo(s). Your tone to one another and facial expression directly impacts your kiddo(s) experience.
Have one backpack that each kiddo brings with them to/from their homes
Don’t come within less than 6 feet of your coparent unless you physically need to hand a baby (who cannot walk) to them.